a little bit o'' this & a little bit o''that.
This life is more then a humbling experiance
Published on April 25, 2004 By illusivedreamer In Misc

Ok well, where to start, the beginning wold probably be a tad bit long winded, the middle would not make sense, and the end, well it has yet to come. Looking for answers can be exhausting, finding them even more. Keeping a smile on your face when you want to explode is yet another example of exhaustion to its fullest. Dedicating every moment of your day to pretending, facing humility, hunger in all ways, fake strength, inner & outer dilemma which only serves to pile more and more as the days go by. What is all this nonsense I speak of? Being without. Without any control over any route your life decides to take.

I have come to the JoeUserCommunity with my head hung low, my heart in my bloody hands and a hunger in my stomache. I have become a statistic in this land we call our home. I am without shelter. My family is scattered in order to see to it that at least my children have a place to lay their heads and feed their bellies. I am not a LOSER, or SLACKER, or even an idiot, I am a women with disibilites living on a government issued income because my doctors will not allow me to work. Because I have only this income to speak of, & I, as many do, am at the mercy of the checks being sent on time, have been thrown to the street becouse my government did not get this money to me on time. Now, as I search on a daily basis to find the help needed to place my family back into a "home", my government is not there to fix the mistake they are responsible for. es, I am angry about the lack of support for people in this circumstance, yes I have a bitter taste in my mouth, but yet I feel that my head should be hung in shame becouse I was unable to protect my family.
It should not come as a surprise that the resources our country has access to, is limited when it comes to taking good care of its own. I gladlyask my Mayor, Governer, President or whomever, to first try and find a way to get to the few shelters availibale, then stay at one when you can get to it. I would like to see them research any availible resources to help a family get off the street only to find that each and everyone of them have a hitch attached which make it even more difficult to get the hell off the streets. I can say this all with a bitter taste of anger running down the side of my mouth becouse I have even gone a few steps further than most, I have gotten in contact with our states Senator, cities Councilman and Mayor's office. Was this to any avail. HELL NO. I am still waiting for a response. Considering I have no phone to be called at, I use the internet as a message post (when I get access to it), and after 2 weeks, still no answer.
Yes, we all are under the impression that there is help out there to be had, that our taxes alone have contributed to those less fortunate. As I said, get threw the red tape and attachments first. Call my a snob, I don't gibve a shit, I will not send my children to the inner city public schools here, I will not live in a community where I will be afraid to walk out of my home, all becouse I have been unable to work becouse of a terminal illness. I have worked hard in my life and done to many things to help others and myself to now be placed wherever there is room. Some may say, well it is better then nothing. Ask yourself, would it be for you? Really? A lifetime spent to make life better for your children and yourself just to have it become fruitless. Oh yes, we could use something, anything as a temporary, transitional stepping stone, but what happens to all that you have built in the meantime? That transitional period of hell, could become more then a short period, or it could take away all that you have taught.
I may be appearant to some that I will not just settle for what I can get, some may believe that I should take what I can get becouse it sounds as though I am living off of them, let me tell you in advance, I am not. I am recieving SS, and that is from working. If I hadn't worked all my life, I would be unable to recieve it, I would only be entitled to county assistance, that would be living off of you. I am a very sick woman & as I pointed out, am not really able to work, but don't think for one minute that I am not looking. In lew of what my doctors say and what my body is capable of, I will still work without doctors consent, when I can find a job. Believe it or not, I have a collage education and the last time I went, I carried a 4.0 GPA. Yes I am in my 40's, I re-entered collage only 4 years ago to better my life. It makes no differance now though. I am not a person who sits back and waits...I am a doer....why am I waiting?????? I have not exactly lived the life of a Saint, nor have I not been exposed to just about eveything you can think of, so I am not a babe in the woods, but at this age, stage in life..this is too much humility and crap for me to have to deal with. I am so damn done with being shook up, mixed up & in the hands of another entitiy which does not care.




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on Apr 25, 2004
I don't really know what to say other than to pray for God's grace to help you make it through. I don't know how often you make it back to check this, but when you do, know that we're thinking of ya...

keep us posted on how things are developing
on Apr 25, 2004
Is this Shel?
on Apr 25, 2004
I can't stay online long enough to give the right kind of response, but I'll be back. Please know that even though it feels it sometimes, you are not alone. I'll be watching this one and be back. If this is Shel, I sent you an email.
on Apr 25, 2004
I am recieving SS, and that is from working. If I hadn't worked all my life, I would be unable to recieve it,


Good point. You have to have worked a certain amount in order to be eligible for disability.

My family is scattered in order to see to it that at least my children have a place to lay their heads and feed their bellies


You know, you made a comment about feeling as if your head should be hung in shame because of this...and I don't think that it should. You did what it took to ensure your kids got what they needed..at your own expense, nonetheless. THAT'S what being a parent is all about, and there's nothing shameful about that.

I will continue to ask for good things to come your way; until then know that you're not alone.
on Apr 25, 2004
yes, it is Shel. I kept sending you emails but they kept coming back. I think the last one did make it though.
on Apr 25, 2004
Hello Shel! I am glad you are being welcomed well here. I'm getting ready to send you another email. I saw your profile, lovely art and poetry! I know the area you are in well. It's nice to meet you!
on Apr 26, 2004
Peeking in. I sent you emails with info and I'll be sending more.

This really is a great article. You are very much in my thoughts and prayers.
on Apr 28, 2004
Shel, You are very much in my thoughts and prayers. Allof the emails I've sent with info on where to get help has been bounced back to me. If you get the chance to be online, please check in and let me know you are ok!
on Apr 28, 2004
Seems some folks here know you Shel. I, as a relative newcomer, do not. I do feel for you though. I have been where you are, with all the same feelings and dispair. Thank God, I had people who helped me out of my situation.

Now, I'm not comparing mine to yours, although it may n the face of it seems that way. My illnesses were not terminal by any means, but they were dibilitating in the extreme for a long period of time. But, I do know what it means to have people to be responsible for and no means to helps them.

I am praying that you will find what you are looking for, and very much wish there was some way I could help you.

I'll be watching this thread and praying for you.

Keep up your courage. I feel certain things will improve for you. Don't ask me why, I just do.
on May 01, 2004
I want to thank everyone for their support and prayers. I am at my freinds tonight so I have a chance to get on here. Ok, well, I had to get my daughter out of where she was staying cause the ladies mother has become ill and she is staying there. Now of course this makes it more worrisome, haven't a clue what to do come tommorow when it is time to go. Out of the mouths of babes though...she says, "mom, I can sleep in the car with you". Too sweet, but we all know the ramafacations if anyone caught wind of that.

WISEFAWN; I did recieve one of your emails and I did indeed call those places, you are gonna probably be angered by this though, I talked to 2 humans out of all of those and a few other repeat calls, and none of those that I left a message with, have ever called back. Those that I did speak with, pretty much also passed the buck and took a message. So, many of them even have a message saying they are not accepting clients because there are no funds available. I have been having a hard time getting my emails to you as well. is there another addy I could use, if you would like try this one for me....impuzzledtoday@yahoo.com I thank you so much for your caring and concern and I hope newfounded friendship!

MasonM: What a blessing it is to know that you pulled through such a trying, horrible experience. If I am not being too nosey...is your health any better! Any kind of health condition, wether terminal or not, takes so much of your life away. I will pray for you in the hopes that you feel well and are doing much better in lifes circumstances. I too am a newcomer, this is the wonderful reception you recieve from the many great people whom use JouUser. So glad that you are here. If you ever want to talk, I check this whenever I can get somewhere with access.
on May 01, 2004
My health is better than it was at the time I mentioned. I have my eyesight back (thank God) and am able to walk again. Although there are some residual problems that are pretty much permanent I can function well enough to get by. I'm still praying for your situation. Keep the faith. Things always seem to work out for the best.
on May 02, 2004
illusivedreamer- I'm so glad to see you were able to post. I know how difficult it can be to ge help. I was homeless for a time last summer. I'll write your other address, thanks. I've added you to some prayer chains. And I agree about being cautious about your daughter. Thanks for the oher address!
on May 02, 2004
Good morning WiseFawn
I have to get off of here for a short while but I will be back on in a little bit, is there a chance you will be on around noon or so? If so, I will find a way to let you know I am back, and I will look for you.
on May 02, 2004
Send me an e-mail and so we can write.
on May 02, 2004
illusivedreamer - I sent you an email with another address of mine.
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